Hey guys!

Welcome AGAIN to Not Easily Broken. This space is going through a transformation and the words that capture it best are: New, Different and Exciting.

It has taken me so long to finally come to terms with the direction for our community but I am glad that I am now ready and able to share what I trust my little corner of the internet will become for anyone who visits.

I have been on a very interesting personal growth journey that has allowed me to truly appreciate how important individual wholeness is to building long lasting relationships. I realised that when I started this blog, I focused a lot on sharing principles, truth and knowledge about relating as couples to help us navigate the world of romantic relationships. While this has been helpful to many of my readers, I intend to bring a more holistic approach to the conversation. I appreciate now more than ever the depth of the scripture that inspired this blog in the first place: Ecclesiastes 4:12 “ A cord of three strands is not easily broken”.

I understand that “not easily broken” does not mean unbreakable. I recognise that the presence of the Holy Spirit goes beyond enjoying an advantage in longevity but also bringing wholeness to the broken parts of ourselves first as individuals. There’s a tendency to conclude that marrying another Christian in church with the blessing of your Pastor and dancing to gospel music is enough to sustain our marriages; we can all agree from the current divorce rate that this is false.

What I believe we have terribly underestimated as the body of Christ is the role of our individual well-being to the progress of our relationships. We have ignored how our upbringing and life experiences shape our behaviours. We have down played the importance of reflection and connection with ourselves and placed a focus on giving to our spouses so much that it has caused an imbalance in relationships. We have used Spirituality to cover up our lack of accountability, insecurities, and identity crisis so much so that our focus is often on our spouses and their flaws because we lack the courage to look within ourselves.

 I intend to focus on helping us understand ourselves by encouraging self-awareness, healing, embracing growth and understanding how our growth impacts our engagement with our partners.

This has been a long time coming and I am glad it is here.